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Honey Badger & Baboons: a modern day parable

The honey badger sat outside her den, behind her the lion lay wounded and bleeding.  His cubs were close by as were her own two honey badgerly kits.  She watched as the fat baboon approached, with its sloping waddle and bright pink bum displaying a gentle sheen of sweat in the African mid-day sun. The honey badger didn’t move.  Didn’t speak.  Simply watched. The baboon hunched low and took a massive poop.  Picked up her poop and slung it at the honey badger.  Laughing, cackling and screaming, the baboon pranced around the patch of veld in front of the honey badger’s home where she sat blocking access to her strange little family. The next day the baboon returned with another baboon.  The baboon’s mother.  They both scrunched down in the red African sand, took massive poops and slung it at the honey badger.  The honey badger said nothing.  The honey…

How to handle your Child’s Back to School Blues

Have heard from a lot of parents struggling to deal with their child’s return to school.  Often classes are mixed up, best friends split up, it can be a very difficult time, especially if your child suffers from anxiety. IT’S OKAY FOR YOUR CHILD TO EXPERIENCE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS One thing I come across far too often in my art classes are pre-teens who are lost.  As children hit 12 and 13 their hormones hit, it is the precursor to High School with all its challenges and, frankly, emotional hardships, those who have been protected from experiencing fear, loneliness, anger, frustration, rage … are utterly lost.  They lack the resilience to deal with the challenges of pre-teens: they are the ones who will follow sheeplike any “leader” in their peers.  They seek external solutions to internal problems. Those that have been permitted to suffer as little kids, and middle school students,…

How to handle your Child’s Back to School Blues

Have heard from a lot of parents struggling to deal with their child’s return to school.  Often classes are mixed up, best friends split up, it can be a very difficult time, especially if your child suffers from anxiety. IT’S OKAY FOR YOUR CHILD TO EXPERIENCE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS One thing I come across far too often in my art classes are pre-teens who are lost.  As children reach 12 and 13 their hormones hit, it is the precursor to High School with all its challenges and, frankly, emotional hardships, those who have been protected from experiencing fear, loneliness, anger, frustration, rage … are utterly lost.  They lack the resilience to deal with the challenges of pre-teens: they are the ones who will follow sheeplike any “leader” in their peers.  They seek external solutions to internal problems. Those that have been permitted to suffer as little kids, and middle school students,…

How to help a PTSD Brain: the do’ and don’ts

I’m in a unique position of having to take my own advice and I don’t really wanna. I’d like to tell some folks what to do, and what not to do, but I just finished a blog and posted it last week about that very thing. The risk of telling people definitively what works and what doesn’t. Instead of do and don’t do, I’m going to tailor it. Here goes. I’m going to call them “perhaps you oughtas” and “ WTF were you thinking.” Perhaps you oughta give them some time to get their groove back.  Let me tell you a little story. No trauma porn*, but a coping story or rather one that highlights a failure in coping. One normal day in 2014, I found myself with a wobbly tire on Highway 99. Highway 99 is of no significance really, other than having extremely small shoulders on the…