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Brian is a retired Warrant Officer with the Canadian Armed Forces: four tours in Bosnia and Afghanistan.  Brian is a survivor of Complex PTSD and a Veteran Advocate.  Many questions come his way from other Vets and this collection of blogs deal with those questions drawing from Brian’s own experiences and life, but also leaning on experts and those who have a lived experience.  Kate comments on his posts to give a spouses perspective and encourage a healthy conversation within families on these issues.  We don’t answer every question we get but we do focus our minds hard when we see the question repeated across a spectrum of forums.  Comments and contact are welcome, Brian is hoping that he is a conversation starter providing a framework for moving forward.  If you have a  burning issue contact us and we will do our best to talk about it, pulling it apart and providing two disparate perspectives on the issue: Vet and Wife of Vet.

BLUF Bottom Line Up Front

This is something thats helped me in handling those around me that I want to keep around me.  There’s a difference of course as for most people I come into day to day contact with, I don’t care if they stay around me.  Once I’m done inspecting their hands, then eyes, then checking if they have a backpack or not (yes hyper vigilance is one of my gifts to myself) I file them away into the ‘won’t remember them’ file.  I’m not talking about those people.  I’m talking about the ones around you that you love and they love you back.  And you want them to stay in your life, and they want to stay in yours. But they don’t know what to do and you don’t know how to bring them around to what actually helps. I recommend an old army adage.  The BLUF.  Not the bluffing that…