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To cure the isolation of PTSD, find a PURPOSE NOT a PERSON #PTSDChat

Would have… Should have… What if we could have a Do-Over?  Messing Up is what those of us with PTSD do best.  What if we could undo some of it? I have never not had Complex PTSD.  My first 15 years were one of extreme trauma: war, child abuse, domestic violence … you name it, I survived it.  If I could I’d go back and grab that tiny baby, take her far, far away from Rhodesia and those parents who did nothing to protect.  Give her to my father’s Irish family, then she’d have grown up in the bosom of a strong, beautiful community instead of the isolation and lonely existence that has been her fair for 46 years. Sadly, we don’t get do-overs like that. Imagine if there was ONE thing that we could undo?  If I could change one thing, it is this: to cure the isolation of…

Dear Friend: the truth about PTSD & life thereafter

Dear Friend So much of what you say and are doing right now is a memory of mine.  Even your weight loss: I dropped from time to time to skeleton; when I couldn’t control anything else in my life I could control what I ate, or more precisely, what I didn’t eat.  That will never change.  When I am stressed I can no more eat than develop a diplomatic filter: ain’t gonna happen no matter how much time those around me spend on their knees praying for it. I am “fixed”.  Does that mean I am free of this injury? Ah jeez, that only happens in Disney and even there Bambi’s Mum got killed.  Reality seeps in even when we try our best to ignore it. I turned to the ever patient and kind Dr Jonathan Douglas (aka POTOPA) for a referral to a trauma specialist with an extremely  strong…

Growth MindSet : WTF? #PTSDChat

Rebecca and I are going to launch a fun PTSD Challenge: spoiler alert! I have chatted to a few friends about this, and one, laughed saying, I know which one you are, Katie dear.  “You’re a Honey Badger!”  See this to understand. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg&sns=em I showed my kids the less expletive (swearing/cussing) version of this and they both said, “Mama you’re a honey badger.” Made me stop and think. Often times I march into a conversation and slap harder than I think I’m slapping, those that are getting this whole PTSD thing upside down and arse about face (in my opinion).  It often shocks me that I upset the apple cart quite as much as I do.  There are times that I very much want full impact and explosion – but that’s directed at institutions not individuals!  Most recently I had what I thought was a philosophical discussion on whether…

What is PTSD? #PTSDChat

Google it and you will find Wikipedia (that compendium that provides me with an opportunity to be an expert in sixty seconds flat, any subject …name it!) states that it is a MENTAL ILLNESS.  Right there is an enormous problem.  Not Mental Injury but “Illness”, ergo, contagious? Something that falls within the realm of physical medicine? Does it heck. I took a run at the Current and Ex-Presidents of the Ontario Psychological Association; they’re good enough to tolerate me from time to time.  I demanded (precocious army brat) that they support efforts to force DSM-5 to change Post Traumatic Stress DISORDER to Post Traumatic Stress INJURY.  It is after all, exactly that!  Dammit. {Pause for foot stamp.} Why is this important?  I wrote “whilst ‘Disorder’ might be valid for you doctor types for an individual who’s entire career is predicated on ‘tough’ (mind and body) it says they were born wrong.…