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2017 Remembrance Day Veteran’s Day Connections Giveaway

Every year I try to do something, a small gesture of gratitude, for those who have given all for their country, for others.  This is a particularly significant time of the year for me; it often cripples me such that I find it hard to communicate much for the week after, this year was no different and in some ways, worse. My idea this year was to change the narrative on trauma and survival.  Rather than asking others to tell their stories of horror and trauma, I asked to hear stories of survival and reconnecting. Isolation and alienation are the two most dangerous feelings in the world. They are, I believe, at the root of mass shootings, suicides, a lot of mental health issues and auto-immune challenges. I was going to have one “winner”.  The stories of courage, strength, survival I received left me floored, literally: I may have fainted…

BATH: a sanity tool (surviving social media posts & online wars)

Other than the screaming and wailing, the gnashing of teeth and the flying of fur how do I know when it’s time to step away from the screen (large or small), tuck the keyboard away and go for a walk? Yesterday’s events in Charlottesville are a perfect example of exactly the sort of event that send us all to hell. It has the toxic mix of racial tension, freedom of speech, rights, historical prejudices, current fears and the media is swirling around it like sharks around a fresh spill of blood.  Calm and educated cop friends are posting with fury on social media, even knowing as they do that their service is watching them.  In BC this event holds particular significance because many who have been told to evacuate from the fires are fearful that the RCMP will use it as an excuse to remove their fire arms (as they…

How to Survive National Tragedies

I’ve spent a great deal of my life contemplating the awful, the terrible and the brutal.  This isn’t an exhaustive list but I hope it might help some of you out there trying to come to terms with this horrendous act of insane violence. Helpless It is in our DNA to help others.  A lot of you are veterans, first responders, doctors, nurses and those that aren’t, have a heart of a lion, ready and wiling to help others.  And … you can’t.  There is nothing you can do.  You sit and watch with horror feeling useless. This isn’t true and this is a very damaging thought pattern.  Find a way to help, and it doesn’t need to be the victims of this tragedy.  Find a way to give to another human, if you can find a way to do it for these people in Las Vegas, great but it…

Honey Badger & Baboons: a modern day parable

The honey badger sat outside her den, behind her the lion lay wounded and bleeding.  His cubs were close by as were her own two honey badgerly kits.  She watched as the fat baboon approached, with its sloping waddle and bright pink bum displaying a gentle sheen of sweat in the African mid-day sun. The honey badger didn’t move.  Didn’t speak.  Simply watched. The baboon hunched low and took a massive poop.  Picked up her poop and slung it at the honey badger.  Laughing, cackling and screaming, the baboon pranced around the patch of veld in front of the honey badger’s home where she sat blocking access to her strange little family. The next day the baboon returned with another baboon.  The baboon’s mother.  They both scrunched down in the red African sand, took massive poops and slung it at the honey badger.  The honey badger said nothing.  The honey…