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Kate Gillie

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International Elimination of Violence Against Women

Have you experienced violence? Yes. What was done to you? Where would you like me to begin? I have a bullet wound in my skull, traumatic brain trauma from too many blows and too many nearly dead dances with explosions, a knife wound on my chin, a nose broken, arms, legs, ribs all broken at some time or other, feet all with odd clicks and bone spurs from breaks, both arms routinely fall out of their sockets because not enough ligaments or muscle are left to keep them in place… That doesn’t answer what was done, only the result. When did you receive these injuries? Throughout my childhood and early adulthood. What man did this to you? Men and women did this to me. Who? About 500,000 various fighters across five countries would happily have chopped me into tiny pieces as a child, African wars are a bit like that.…

2017 Remembrance Day Veteran’s Day Connections Giveaway

Every year I try to do something, a small gesture of gratitude, for those who have given all for their country, for others.  This is a particularly significant time of the year for me; it often cripples me such that I find it hard to communicate much for the week after, this year was no different and in some ways, worse. My idea this year was to change the narrative on trauma and survival.  Rather than asking others to tell their stories of horror and trauma, I asked to hear stories of survival and reconnecting. Isolation and alienation are the two most dangerous feelings in the world. They are, I believe, at the root of mass shootings, suicides, a lot of mental health issues and auto-immune challenges. I was going to have one “winner”.  The stories of courage, strength, survival I received left me floored, literally: I may have fainted…

BATH: a sanity tool (surviving social media posts & online wars)

Other than the screaming and wailing, the gnashing of teeth and the flying of fur how do I know when it’s time to step away from the screen (large or small), tuck the keyboard away and go for a walk? Yesterday’s events in Charlottesville are a perfect example of exactly the sort of event that send us all to hell. It has the toxic mix of racial tension, freedom of speech, rights, historical prejudices, current fears and the media is swirling around it like sharks around a fresh spill of blood.  Calm and educated cop friends are posting with fury on social media, even knowing as they do that their service is watching them.  In BC this event holds particular significance because many who have been told to evacuate from the fires are fearful that the RCMP will use it as an excuse to remove their fire arms (as they…

How to Survive National Tragedies

I’ve spent a great deal of my life contemplating the awful, the terrible and the brutal.  This isn’t an exhaustive list but I hope it might help some of you out there trying to come to terms with this horrendous act of insane violence. Helpless It is in our DNA to help others.  A lot of you are veterans, first responders, doctors, nurses and those that aren’t, have a heart of a lion, ready and wiling to help others.  And … you can’t.  There is nothing you can do.  You sit and watch with horror feeling useless. This isn’t true and this is a very damaging thought pattern.  Find a way to help, and it doesn’t need to be the victims of this tragedy.  Find a way to give to another human, if you can find a way to do it for these people in Las Vegas, great but it…