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Honey Badger & Baboons: a modern day parable

The honey badger sat outside her den, behind her the lion lay wounded and bleeding.  His cubs were close by as were her own two honey badgerly kits.  She watched as the fat baboon approached, with its sloping waddle and bright pink bum displaying a gentle sheen of sweat in the African mid-day sun. The honey badger didn’t move.  Didn’t speak.  Simply watched. The baboon hunched low and took a massive poop.  Picked up her poop and slung it at the honey badger.  Laughing, cackling and screaming, the baboon pranced around the patch of veld in front of the honey badger’s home where she sat blocking access to her strange little family. The next day the baboon returned with another baboon.  The baboon’s mother.  They both scrunched down in the red African sand, took massive poops and slung it at the honey badger.  The honey badger said nothing.  The honey…

How to handle your Child’s Back to School Blues

Have heard from a lot of parents struggling to deal with their child’s return to school.  Often classes are mixed up, best friends split up, it can be a very difficult time, especially if your child suffers from anxiety. IT’S OKAY FOR YOUR CHILD TO EXPERIENCE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS One thing I come across far too often in my art classes are pre-teens who are lost.  As children hit 12 and 13 their hormones hit, it is the precursor to High School with all its challenges and, frankly, emotional hardships, those who have been protected from experiencing fear, loneliness, anger, frustration, rage … are utterly lost.  They lack the resilience to deal with the challenges of pre-teens: they are the ones who will follow sheeplike any “leader” in their peers.  They seek external solutions to internal problems. Those that have been permitted to suffer as little kids, and middle school students,…

How to handle your Child’s Back to School Blues

Have heard from a lot of parents struggling to deal with their child’s return to school.  Often classes are mixed up, best friends split up, it can be a very difficult time, especially if your child suffers from anxiety. IT’S OKAY FOR YOUR CHILD TO EXPERIENCE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS One thing I come across far too often in my art classes are pre-teens who are lost.  As children reach 12 and 13 their hormones hit, it is the precursor to High School with all its challenges and, frankly, emotional hardships, those who have been protected from experiencing fear, loneliness, anger, frustration, rage … are utterly lost.  They lack the resilience to deal with the challenges of pre-teens: they are the ones who will follow sheeplike any “leader” in their peers.  They seek external solutions to internal problems. Those that have been permitted to suffer as little kids, and middle school students,…

PTSD Triggered: First Hand Experience of BOTH SIDES

“You were born into this.  There are guys out there at 40 who are trying to figure this out for the first time.  Some think that they have to “snap” you out of this.  Shove a coke in your hand or a coffee.” Sitting at the counter of our kitchen whilst he preps supper we are talking about how to tackle this subject effectively.  I am shocked.  Who’d be so ignorant as to try to “snap” a person in a full PTSD episode back to the here and now?  Oh. Right then. Quite a lot of people apparently.  My bad. So don’t do that.  Like, seriously, DON’T.  The most that you can do if you witness another person in a full PTSD episode is to protect them as best you can from hurting themselves, be patient, kind and non-reactive.  By your presence, gentle and calm, try to reassure them…